Jenny, I feel you wrote this just me for me! (Which proves I’m not alone in these feelings). The parental rage / reactivity / guilt / shame spiral is so real. I could have written the first half myself, the second half (self compassion) is very new to me and definitely still a work in progress. There’s a part of me that inexplicably believes that it’s perfectly acceptable for other people to not cope in these clearly stressful situations for all the reasons you’ve outlined, but I (a robotic machine apparently 🤣) “should” be able to cope. I also find it so interesting that my partner probably takes 10 mins to regulate after a blow up with the kids, meanwhile I’m like you - my body is vibrating for about 4 hours! I love that you give yourself permission not to jump in and “mend” things immediately ♥️
Hi Sara! Firstly I’m sorry for the delay - I had a migraine for a few days so went screen-free for a couple of days, then I got my period so took my usual 48+ hour sabbatical from social media during my bleed! Just back online today!
Thank you so much for letting me know this resonated so closely with your own experience - this is my hope with the writing that I do! So many of us feel it ‘must just be me’ who gets this reactionary or angry, and it’s just NOT TRUE! Knowing this, that everyone experiences anger, is KEY to our self-compassion practice. And yes, the self-compassion is a practice - a life-long one - I only started about 5 years ago with it, and I’m still tripping myself up daily with criticism & harshness before I catch it and switch it up to a more compassionate tending to myself. And oh yes, taking the time I need to regulate again is soooooo important - again, I’ve only learned this by NOT given myself that time then exploding all over again after apologising 😣 It’s a learning curve! But hopefully we can both continue to build our skills in giving ourselves permission too, to be kind and give ourselves the time we need, when we get dysregulated 😌❤️
No need for apologies, Jenny! Migraine + period = ☠️☠️. I hope you’ve emerged feeling ok. Thank you so much for sharing all of this - it’s so important to know we’re not alone in these feelings / reactions. Kristen Neff keeps coming up for me so will definitely dive into her work ♥️
Jenny, I feel you wrote this just me for me! (Which proves I’m not alone in these feelings). The parental rage / reactivity / guilt / shame spiral is so real. I could have written the first half myself, the second half (self compassion) is very new to me and definitely still a work in progress. There’s a part of me that inexplicably believes that it’s perfectly acceptable for other people to not cope in these clearly stressful situations for all the reasons you’ve outlined, but I (a robotic machine apparently 🤣) “should” be able to cope. I also find it so interesting that my partner probably takes 10 mins to regulate after a blow up with the kids, meanwhile I’m like you - my body is vibrating for about 4 hours! I love that you give yourself permission not to jump in and “mend” things immediately ♥️
Hi Sara! Firstly I’m sorry for the delay - I had a migraine for a few days so went screen-free for a couple of days, then I got my period so took my usual 48+ hour sabbatical from social media during my bleed! Just back online today!
Thank you so much for letting me know this resonated so closely with your own experience - this is my hope with the writing that I do! So many of us feel it ‘must just be me’ who gets this reactionary or angry, and it’s just NOT TRUE! Knowing this, that everyone experiences anger, is KEY to our self-compassion practice. And yes, the self-compassion is a practice - a life-long one - I only started about 5 years ago with it, and I’m still tripping myself up daily with criticism & harshness before I catch it and switch it up to a more compassionate tending to myself. And oh yes, taking the time I need to regulate again is soooooo important - again, I’ve only learned this by NOT given myself that time then exploding all over again after apologising 😣 It’s a learning curve! But hopefully we can both continue to build our skills in giving ourselves permission too, to be kind and give ourselves the time we need, when we get dysregulated 😌❤️
No need for apologies, Jenny! Migraine + period = ☠️☠️. I hope you’ve emerged feeling ok. Thank you so much for sharing all of this - it’s so important to know we’re not alone in these feelings / reactions. Kristen Neff keeps coming up for me so will definitely dive into her work ♥️